Divorce and Remarriage

This week we talked about divorce and remarriage. We had the neat opportunity to have Brother Williams wife come in where they talked about merging her children into a new mans life to start a new family and the different challenges that came along with it. She also talked about having to date again and juggle working 70 hours a week to support her family. Being a single mom is extremely tough, but I think what I got from the discussion is don't give up. At times the women may feel like she is too much of a burden for a man to handle-being a divorcee and having children of her own. It can work out as long as you know how to manage your time. Once you do find someone who you think would be a great fit, you can tell him of your situation. It isn't a good idea to unload all your past problems on the first date. In fact, both the children and the person you are dating don't necessarily need to know of each other (to a certain extent) until both of you are in a committed relationship and want to exclusively date. As Brother Williams and his wife pointed out, things aren't going to be hunky dory the day you get married. It is going to take much time and getting used to. They even mentioned that 14 years later there were still problems arising. There are always going to be situations in any type of family that will arise and you will need to handle appropriately. With a blended family, it is important that the biological parent should be more of the disciplinary figure while the step-father is more of an aunt or uncle type of figure. Reason being is the step-parent needs to first develop a relationship with the children, not just go straight into putting down the rules and disciplining them. Together both parents should consult with each other (behind closed doors). Make sure the both of you are on the same page and one isn't favoring over the other. With the help and support of each other in trying to create a meaningful intimate relationship, you can make it work. :)